Healing Containers
I specialise in working with highly sensitive and empathic people undergoing transformative processes in service of healing and awakening.
If you've been paying attention, you may have noticed that the pace of the evolution of consciousness has been quickening. These times are intense, and fast paced, and our energy systems are often at capacity simply trying to process the incoming data. There is an impetus towards evolution, and while biological evolution takes generations, the evolution of consciousness is happening in realtime during your short and precious life, and you can affect this process intentionally if you choose to. The process by which our consciousness evolves includes a series of transformation processes, whereby we come to form new beliefs, feel differently even towards the very same things, and act differently at the level of practice and behaviour. When we become an evolved version of ourselves, the grip of our old identity has to fall away, and we come to realise that who we truly are can never have been what we used to identify with, since that has changed and here we still are. This is how transformation, when attended to intentionally, can be a portal for awakening.
Transformation is a natural and unavoidable aspect of a human life. Transformative processes include (but are not limited to:
- birth
- puberty
- coming out
- falling in love
- paradigm shifts
- learning self-love
- becoming a parent
- rites of passage/initiation
- emigration/ culture change
- religious/spiritual conversion
- neurodiversity integration
- psychadelic integration
- addiction recovery
- trauma recovery
- career changes
- bereavement
- menopause
- death
Transformation is not really avoidable - believe me I tried! If you didn't get there yet, spoiler alert: avoidance is temporary at best and comes anyway with fierce grace! We can however, choose to absent ourselves or show up to it, and the results will be wildly different. I use the word "integration" or "recovery" since it is not the events by themselves that transform us - we can decline the invitation. It is what comes afterwards (the integration) that defines whether we are transformed and continue to evolve, or return to the old baseline and stay stuck. You may have already raw-dogged several of these processes and you may have some battle scars and intrusive memories to show for it alongside the pearls and gifts...
Transformation can be a disaster when it happens to us and we are not aware of whats happening, not adequately supported, with no map... people can blow up their whole lives, alienate and estrange loved ones, lose homes, jobs, and other stabilising factors of a balanced life, since the transformation can be disorienting and make it very challenging to continue engaging in the old ways. Maybe changes need to be made, but my hope is that this comes from considered discernment, clarity, as a choice, with peace and ease, and implemented at a pace and in a way that can be integrated without trauma. What transformation never changes, is love. Love is the medium in which transformation happens. Transformations can happen within our relationships too, when one person evolves the call is to synchronise the evolution and let the relationship evolve too.
Relationships where love is flowing and reflecting can become closer, more intimate, more enjoyable, and the constraints that the old version of you placed on the experiences of love, through the process of transformation, can allow more love through. that's the primary hope. When transformations are skillfully facilitated, when the stages are predictable, and when there are supports and accommodations in place, most relationships can survive transformation and can deepen as a result of it. The aspects of life that change are the ones that never worked to begin with. Still, some of those losses may need to be grieved, but it is a pathway to more authenticity and is generally a good investment.
Transformation is not undertaken by many as a conscious exercise because the disruption of the status quo of the familiar and of the comfortable is not a super attractive proposition to the parts of us who are attached to their methods of control. Transformation is often only opted into when the prevailing reality is unbearable enough that the discomfort of change is less than the discomfort of staying the same. When transformation happens less consciously, one can become identified more easily, more stuck more easily, lost more easily. The chaos can amplify. It can be disorienting. It can be painful, even unbearable at moments, so there comes a point where accepting the invitation to consciously evolve is more attractive.
If that speaks to where you are now, if there are aspects of your reality that you are so done suffering with, that you are so sick of the loops and the cycles, that you are willing to turn towards the discomfort even if it means some temporary disruption to let go of some of the familiar comforts in order to arrive at something truer, this may be calling you. Work with me if you want to consciously engage in your own evolution.
If you are already a transformation veteran, if you've had a few iterations of the phoenix rebirth cycle already and you feel that a deepening is on the horizon for you, or are in the midst of a death and rebirth, release and renewal cycle, and you can afford yourself the luxury of having a skilled companion for that so you can experience the full benefits of what this transformation is offering you, squeezing the juice to propel your evolution with more efficiency, grace, and ease, then I'm here for it!
If you feel called, I warmly invite you to get in touch to book a session. I offer a free initial consultation call to see if working together will best suit you and be a good fit, and if so, I offer either:
- Consistent regular private 1-2-1 sessions for a period of time until you consider yourself healed or empowered to continue your own healing.
- Ongoing or fixed term private couple sessions until either your relationship goals are met, or your transition is successfully navigated.
- A combination of individual and couple sessions, all in service of the relationship itself.
- Professional mentorship and consultation/supervision - for practitioners wanting to deepen their IFS practice.
- Regular live group sessions within my Crystal Heart membership, and the option to transition to the membership at the completion of our 1-2-1 container.
If you are considering how best to work with me but have questions, I offer a free phone consultation to answer any questions (with no obligation).
When we heal, we don't go back to who we were before, we become an evolved version of ourselves: the post-transformation Self is who we are meant to be
Individual Work
If you need an attuned healing space for the deepest level of individual inner work, working with me may be a good fit. I am comfortable with intensity, big emotions, rapid life changes, and a vast spectrum of consciousness that means I can walk alongside a section of your journey to lend my experience and skills to support you in integrating your own.
We each have our own pain to bear, and our own versions of suffering, and I am here to support so that you suffer the minimum amount possible and don't have to do it all alone. For the lucky amongst us there are good supports in our friends, family, and community, yet even when this is in place there may be specific places we need to be met, relational healing that needs to happen, that can't be found in the context of your everyday life and relationships. This is where a healing container can help, allowing you to return to your context more integrated and whole, more resourced to navigate the vicissitudes in our body, mind, relationships, environment, and culture.
A one to one context with me means you get to have it all your way, at your pace, and on your terms. I'll ask you what your intention for the session is and we will dive into the deepest root you are consenting to and you can borrow my Self-energy, insight, perspective, energy system, brain, and nervous system to support you towards that intention. This is also a good context for learning the specific tools and practices that will become your resources and go-tos so that you can navigate healing independently when you are ready.
I want you to thrive, to bridge your love into this world that needs as much of it as possible, to let your creativity flow, your relationships flourish, your visions come to life, and your gifts cultivated and offered to the world, so in a healing container with me I become your ally in this. I can support you to overcome whatever is blocking your evolution and support you to transition through the stages of your transformation.
What happens from the moment you set an intention for healing is a totally natural process of unravelling, clearing, and aligning, that often involves incredible synchronicities, and sometimes even miracles, and will ultimately lead you to exactly where you need to be. If you are ready to set this intention, book a free consultation call and I look forward to connecting with you!
Couples Work
Many of those I support are navigating intense relationships that are burdened by past traumas, misunderstood neurodivergence, ancestral wounds, cultural constraints, and challenges integrating awakening experiences or psychedelic experiences, and an array of other factors that are coming to the surface for many of us at this time. Love is the bedrock that you relationship is build from, and the job of couple's work is to unconstrain its flow and clear reflection. Such things are often moved through with more grace and efficiency with facilitation from someone with experience in these areas.
My primary couples work modality is IFIO - Intimacy From the Inside Out - which is the Internal Family Systems way of doing couples work, and I am Relational Life Therapy informed (Level 1 trained). Because both you and your partner have parts, you are not just in one relationship - you and your parts are in a myriad of complex inter-relationship with them and their parts. Bringing clarity to this can support real intimacy, resolution, teamwork, and deeper love, compassion, and connectedness.
Most couples have one or two main dynamics that cause most of the pain. It's normal to think that if this one thing could change, that would solve it - and you would be right! Except that each partner is usually pointing at the other, for what needs to change, which keeps things stuck. Since each of us can only change ourselves the work is to do our own work in the presence of our partners and through this reciprocal relational healing the old dynamic can lose its motivation, lose its grip, and make space for new choices of relating that come from what is aligned with your values of relational integrity.
I support couples who are wanting real intimacy. I think that neurodivergent individuals can face a similar set of relational challenges, and with the right support these can be overcome and so this is the community I most adore supporting.
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Improve your capacity for intimacy and love
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Preventative medicine - nip the early issues in the bud
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Refine good communication about hard topics
- Create secure and healthy relationships
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Create a solid foundation for commitment
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Heal past relational wounds (like attachment wounds, abandonment, betrayal, and abuse, including narcissistic abuse)
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Heal relational patterns like co-dependency
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Conscious uncoupling for separating couples
Group Work
Many things really do take a village. We cannot heal systemic wounds as an island, we really need to gather collectively to do this.
If you're sensitive, you likely accrued trauma from previous group dynamics, and you may have learnt to survive either by avoiding groups, or by holding them - attuning to everyone in the room and then feeling exhausted. Participating in resonant groups may be the most appropriate way to heal.
I offer a titrated way to participate so you can stay in your own tolerance window while you heal, and where opt-in and consent is always encouraged so you can participate to the level that you want.
We cannot make the systems we live in more just by doing more therapy, we cannot address systemic issues in a 1-2-1 context. 1-2-1 therapy can take us only so far (perhaps to the gateway where we can then participate in healing groups) and I believe this is a much needed element in our highly individualised and largely isolated culture - we need a village! We cannot expect to change our cultural conditions, or heal the harm caused by having been or being (sometimes multiply) marginalised, oppressed, exploited, or constrained by factors outside of our control, without being able to collaborate and work together, so healing the constraints to doing so is a vital step.
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